Yes, I’m getting myself a nerdy spec this month, probably the end of this month.
Today I had a conversation with one of my best girl-friend(s) about the reasons why guys and girls are mean to each other after break-ups or rejection.
To the readers: For the ladies, have you ever noticed that a guy will start ignoring you? That he says mean things to you, not actual mean, but hurtful things. Guys, have you ever noticed a girl brushing you off? That she flat out pretends you do not exist after you two have had history together.
My annoying girl-friend(s) and I discussed this. She was telling me about how her ex boyfriend started ignoring her after they broke up. I could tell she was hurt because she felt that she did something wrong to make him cold and distant. Then it hit me, he did not do it because he hated her, he did it because he did it in order to move on.
Another friend of mine, this time a guy, told me that he will say hurtful things to a girl just so she will stop liking him and move on. I started to recognize a pattern: In order to move on or to stop someone from potentially like you, one must act cold and distant toward the intended person; furthermore to utilize these tactics in an efficient manner to accomplish the task at hand.
On a personal note, I will do this too. if i need to move on, I will ignore and pretend someone does not exist. We, human beings, form emotional attachments to others. When it comes to like/love/infatuation, we start to form that emotional attachment. However, in order to get rid of it, we have to do whatever it takes. Its a defense mechanism that we have programmed into our bodies.
A friend of mine brushed me off on Saturday night. I don’t know why. But I thought to myself, maybe she’s doing it to protect herself from further hurt and pain.
Selena Gomez. Flawless. I want to marry her and have her children.
