“Each friend represents a world in us, a world possibly not born until they arrive, and it is only by this meeting that a new world is born.”
I’ve realized something about friends. They are important, but being true to yourself is more important. So when forced to choose, choose yourself. Friends will come and go, but your main mission is you.
It’s hard to come to terms with losing someone you are friendly with.. even harder coming to terms with losing someone you identify with strongly. However the universe seems to find ways to take care of us, if we only open our minds and our eyes. One thing I realized is that different people come into my life especially when I need them. I’ve been watching from a distance for a long time now, and have realized, that every time I need something, or every time there is a lesson for me to learn, someone new comes along, out of nowhere. And I pay close attention, as to not take for granted, what I can take away from each and every one of these special people.
One girl taught me that I need not kick myself and put myself down for a relationship. There is no need for thinking such as I don’t deserve her and she’s better than me. Another girl taught me that I need not commit or take abusive behavior. There is no need for verbal abuse.. after all, the world around us is a mirror image of who we are inside. Another girl I met helped me break out of thinking patterns because she was young but you wouldn’t have guessed it by her behavior. Therefore practical rules such as act your age don’t really exist and everyone deserves a fair chance. People are people and I’ve known some younger people to be smarter than many adults and vice-versa. Every soul is at a different stage of development and that is neither positive nor negative. This one guy I met helped me open my mind bucketloads. His thinking and creativity, as well as collective ideas of the world really helped me expand my mind. A man, my lecturer I met recently helped me open my eyes to my own flaws, which I have been passing by without looking twice. Thanks to him, and at the expense of our friendship, I learned to accept who I am at full sail and to embrace my mistakes if I have any hope of ever overcoming then. How can one see the good when they are running away from themselves?
What you see around you is a mirror image of what is inside you. If you see a mess, then you are a mess. I say that with most understanding and compassion, because we all go through it. One person isn’t better than another because there aren’t notches set in stone for this type of development. We all go through different things at different points in our lifetime and heck, we don’t even all go through the same things in one lifetime. So really, there should be no judgment with these types of things. And from where I’m sitting, there is none. Just love and openness. I am willing to accept anyone’s shortcomings as long as they are able to work with mine, in hopes that we can grow together. We shouldn’t hold on to the concept that friends are forever, because people come and go. That is life, and it is important to just be thankful for the time we get to meet and be with one another.
