I find the concept of a “soulmate” and “the one perfect fit” for everyone in the universe a little ridiculous; a fantasy. Sure, it is nice to believe, and easy to tell someone “Well, I’m single because “the one” just hasn’t came into my life yet…” but how do you really know that this certain person is “the one”? Is it unspeakable? Is it a karmic thing? Is it a feeling that is so overwhelming that you don’t want to leave their side? And if there is a feeling like this, what were all of your other romantic relationships in life? A trial run before the “big thing”?
Maybe there are many soulmates for each of us… they are our friends… our family… random encounters…. our schoolmates …and sometimes even people we no longer talk to. And maybe a soulmate is just someone who is your best friend (in a relationship or not.)
In the book, ”Eat, Pray, Love” by Elizabeth Gilbert, she puts it perfectly… something a little more realistic than the “soulmate fantasy”:
“People think a soul mate is your perfect fit, and that’s what everyone wants. But a true soul mate is a mirror, the person who shows you everything that is holding you back, the person who brings you to your own attention so you can change your life. A true soul mate is probably the most important person you’ll ever meet, because they tear down your walls and smack you awake. But to live with a soul mate forever? Nah. Too painful. Soul mates, they come into your life just to reveal another layer of yourself to you, and then leave.”
